A friend of mine is going through a difficult time with many areas of her life being challenged. She is not alone. I have heard from many people who are struggling in one or more areas of their life. I have also recently found myself at a major crossroads and the word surrender keeps popping into my mind. For someone who thinks she’s in control more than she is, the word surrender causes my heart to skip a beat. It’s not easy to surrender!
When you had a picture of what you thought your life would be like at any given time and when you look around and it doesn’t look anything like your picture, it’s hard to swallow. But the thing is the only way out of the disappointment, the obsession, the worry, or the anger is truly to surrender to the moment, to what is right in front of you. This doesn’t mean it will stay that way and you’ll never get what you want, be where you want to be or even feel happy and joyful. But the only way to get to where you want to go is to surrender to where you are right now. It can alleviate the discomfort, the pain that is in your heart. What would your life be like if you surrendered and trusted the Divine to show you the way? How much easier do you think life would be? Much easier! When you truly surrender, you will know it because your life will flow with ease and harmony and you will feel at peace.
I know when I remember to let go and allow my Higher Self and Spirit to guide me, I can go about my daily life without worrying about my future or how I think I want it to be. Imagining your life the way you want it to be or how you would like things to turn out is a great practice. But the KEY to this is that once you visualize your wants and needs, you simply MUST let go of the outcome. Trust the Universe to show you the way. Life is in each moment, not in an elusive tomorrow!
This is a tough concept to grasp. It sounds good in theory, but until you put into practice ways to help you stay connected, you will continue to try to make things happen the way you think it needs to be. Surrendering and giving up control for me is still a process. I remember and forget and remember again. I have found that for me my need for control comes from a place that I’m not safe or it’s not going to be the way I want it to be. When I remember I am always safe and Divinely connected and guided, I feel my shoulders drop and my whole body relax.
Lately I’ve been imagining a bouquet of balloons and placing any worry or pain I am experiencing into each balloon and letting them go! This has been very healing for me.
What do you do that helps you release your worries and trust the process?
Quote of the Day: "The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace becomes transformed into peace. Anything you accept fully will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender." -Eckhart Tolle
I recently posted this picture on my Facebook page that I took recently on our family trip to Martha's Vineyard. I was feeling a little disappointed that day because of the weather. It was colder than I would have liked and I could feel myself getting a bit frustrated. I closed my eyes for a few minutes and did some deep breathing. As I was doing this, I could hear my daughter squealing with delight as she ran to and from the waves.
The weather wasn't affecting her fun in any way. When I finally opened my eyes, I saw the sky above. I have observed many times in my life when I am worried, frustrated or angry and I don't take notice of the beauty all around me. As soon as I recognize that I am disconnected from my Higher Self and Spirit and reconnect, the world looks beautiful to me again. The grass looks greener, the flowers brighter and the sky bursts into color and light right before my eyes. It is so amazing how our thoughts and emotions distort our perspective. When you are connected to Divine energy, the world in front of you changes as if by magic.
Remembering to stay connected more of the time will change your life in ways beyond your imagination. Here are a few ways to keep yourself connected:
- Pray and/or meditate daily even if just for five minutes.
- Keep a gratitude journal or at the very least think of five things you are grateful for right before falling asleep at night.
- Exercise in any form as long as you stay connected to your breath.
- Deep breathing is the fastest way to center yourself and feel connected.
- Do something that you find joyful! Creative pursuits are an amazing way to stay in the moment and experience pure joy!
How do you feel when someone asks you, "where do you see yourself in five years?" What do you say? I don't believe this is a great question because five years is a long time and think about how much you've changed since last week. If you are on a conscious path, you know that your soul is evolving and growing and you may not have the same ideas or thoughts you have even a year from now.
I think a better question to ask yourself is, "how do I want to be living right now?" Think about your ideal life and the pictures you've had for how you wanted your life to be and see if they still resonate with you today. If so, feel how it would be if you were living exactly the way you've dreamed. Start this minute to take the small steps each day while at the same time live as if you are already living your dream life. If you feel you don't know how you would like to be living right now, take some time and dream. Dream about your ideal life and see what happens.
The reason why I don't like the five-year plan question is because if you set goals and keep your vision on the five year outcome, you may miss other, sometimes better opportunities along the way that either could get you where you want to go faster or having you changing direction completely.
Plan ahead by all means and then surrender the outcome! When you surrender and let go, you will be able to notice the messages and guidance from your Higher Self. Opportunities you may never have thought of will begin to show up. This will get you where you want to be faster than all the planning will!
Quote of the Day: "We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." -Joseph Campbell
This morning I went to my weekly yoga class. I am a huge fan of yoga and find I feel amazing after each class. As soon as my body hits the mat, I feel my muscles relax. My body and mind respond immediately to my intention to release all the places I am holding stress.
There are so many benefits to practicing yoga. It's more than just physical exercise. It's a way to calm the mind, stretch and strengthen the body and connect with Spirit. I didn't always feel this way about yoga.
I had tried several yoga classes over the years and never truly fell in love. I even had a few instances where the teacher pushed me further into a pose than I was ready for and I hurt myself. After the last class in which a teacher did this and I hurt my lower back, I went up to her after class to let her know. She was very kind and did not let me leave without trying to make my back feel better. But I still never returned to that yoga studio.
Then one winter day a few years ago, I was feeling out of sorts. A friend of mine recommended I go to a yoga class with her. I still vividly remember the feeling I had both during and after that class for days. I had finally found my teacher. Her philosophy about yoga is what yoga truly is. It's your own practice and you are to do only what feels available to you with each posture. She provides options for each pose to take it further if you are able, but always talks about practicing at your own pace. Her primary focus is your connection to your breath. Deep breathing is your connection to the inner reservoir of silence and calm.
If you haven't tried a yoga class and have always wanted to or you had similar experiences to mine, I encourage you to try again. Find a studio that feels right to you and once you find a teacher that inspires you and has a philosophy you believe in, keep going.
I still can't do a headstand, although truthfully I haven't tried it! But I was more than able to eat a gluten-free cookie they had available after class today.
Quote of the Day: "Yoga is the practice of quieting the mind". -Patanjali
Ever wonder what happened to your day as you are getting ready for bed? Do you think back and realize it was mostly made up of work, chores, more chores and maybe a few fleeting moments of joy. When you were a child, the joy experienced was most likely in bigger chunks throughout the day. As I watch my daughter, she spends most of her day in joyful play. I know we've all heard it before, but joy is found in the present moment. Children know this and live only in the present.
I have found in my own life that although I have to do chores so that my family can function optimally, I have a choice. I can do them with annoyance or stay in the moment where the joy can be found. I find myself, at times, very content as I wash the dishes, fold the laundry, go grocery shopping with my daughter and cook dinner.
You can find joy in the everyday tasks by staying right where you are. Next time, try folding the laundry and focusing on only lining up your towels neatly or watching what is happening in front of you as you wash the dishes instead of thinking about the next thing you have to do.
Of course, we still need to find the time to do things that we find joyful such as a creative pursuit. This can be more difficult for moms with little ones or someone working long hours, but still imperative to keeping your own cup full. Thus, you will be able to emanate joy more consistently with your children and your families. That's not always easy if we are only focused on getting the chores done. However, as you take time for yourself, you may find you have a joyful bounce in your step effortlessly as you complete your chores.
What can you focus on today with the intent of feeling more joy?
Quote of the day: "I'm thankful for this laundry....because it means the ones I love are near." -Unknown
I just read a great story by Cheryl Richardson on her Facebook page. She wrote about why we may find that affirmations don't always work. You can read it here
. She started the story by stating she at times feels like a fraud because she doesn't always do what she teaches others to do.
This was just what I needed to hear today. I've been feeling a bit off balance lately and not incorporating the positive choices that make me feel good. I had been staying up later than usual, not eating optimally, not exercising and consequently not feeling great.
Then I began to question how am I supposed to help and serve others if I'm not taking great care of myself. What I'm learning is twofold. First, we teach what we most need to learn and/or remember. And second, we are all human and we may all go off track once in a while. It's the gentleness with which we treat ourselves as we work to get back on track that is of the utmost importance. That alone is great self-care. Beating ourselves up and continuing negative self-talk will not help us find our way back. What do you do when you find yourself off your path?Quote of the Day: "The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but rising every time we fall!" -Nelson Mandela
It's been a while since I posted on this blog. I have been trying to find balance in my own life. Juggling being a mom, work, writing, household chores, exercising, date night with hubby etc. has been quite an experience. What I'm beginning to think is that it's really like a see-saw. It's never quite level no matter how hard you try. In life we never get to a place where we get to sit back and say, "ah, all my ducks are in a row". That may be for that millisecond, but then we are teetering again.
I would love to hear from you. Please share your thoughts about this whole concept of balance (and any successful strategies that have helped you find balance in your own life).
This quote made me laugh out loud. Maybe it's all about humor!!!
Quote of the Day: "Keep Calm. Nobody else knows what they're doing either". -Unknown
When you are struggling in life with something, what's the first thing you do? Do you ask others for their advice and opinions? Do you search endlessly on the internet for the answer? All the answers you need for your life are within you. You have access to a rich inner source of wisdom. Your Higher Self, which is your highest Divine version of your physical self, knows exactly how to help you. All you have to do is ask or begin to listen for your inner voice. The way to connect to your Higher Self is to sit in silence and set your intention. Once you ask for assistance, you need to trust the answer you receive. If the answer is to take action, you will feel inspired to do so and it is then your responsibility to follow it. Taking inspired action is much different than taking action using sheer human will. You may not know why you are being led in the direction that you are, but if you follow it with trust in your heart, you will eventually understand through hindsight. As you begin to connect more and more with your Higher Self, you will find that following your inner guidance will get easier. Life will become more peaceful, loving and definitely more joyful. Here is a story that some may be familiar with about what happens when we ask for assistance, but then turn it away. It's the same thing if we ask for assistance and hear our inner voice and then we don't follow the guidance or take action.
The Drowning Man
A fellow was stuck on his rooftop in a flood. He was praying to God for help.
Soon a man in a rowboat came by and the fellow shouted to the man on the roof, "Jump in, I can save you."
The stranded fellow shouted back, "No, it's OK, I'm praying to God and he is going to save me."
So the rowboat went on.
Then a motorboat came by. "The fellow in the motorboat shouted, "Jump in, I can save you."
To this the stranded man said, "No thanks, I'm praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith."
So the motorboat went on.
Then a helicopter came by and the pilot shouted down, "Grab this rope and I will lift you to safety."
To this the stranded man again replied, "No thanks, I'm praying to God and he is going to save me. I have faith."
So the helicopter reluctantly flew away.
Soon the water rose above the rooftop and the man drowned. He went to Heaven. He finally got his chance to discuss this whole situation with God, at which point he exclaimed, "I had faith in you but you didn't save me, you let me drown. I don't understand why!"
To this God replied, "I sent you a rowboat and a motorboat and a helicopter, what more did you expect?"
What action can you take today that you are being guided to take? Listen to your inner voice and trust what you hear!
Quote of the day: "See where your own energy wants to go, not where you think it should go. Do something because it feels right, not because it makes sense. Follow the spiritual impulse."
The other day I was at the library with my daughter. We went into the coffee shop to have a snack. As we were walking to our table, I felt guided to sit in a certain chair facing out the window. As we were sitting there eating, I focused in on a woman sitting in the window bay having lunch with a friend. I overheard a part of her conversation even though I was about 20 feet away from her. She was not talking very loud. I then felt the need to talk with her and invite her to a monthly meditation group I attend which was happening the very next day. This is not something I would normally do, but the feeling kept getting stronger as if I was being pushed out of my chair.
After several minutes, I discreetly made my way over to where she was sitting. The opening for me was that she noticed my daughter and took an interest in her and we started to talk. I told her I overheard something she said and that I thought she would really like our meditation group. She initially looked a little shocked, but then asked for more information. I gave it to her, told her it was nice to meet her and started to walk to the door. As my daughter and I were walking out, she came up behind us and sounding more enthusiastic, thanked me again. I gave her my cell phone number so she could text me her number in case the group cancelled for any reason. She sent me a text the next day telling me she couldn't make it that night, but would love to come next month. Whether she will or won't is not the point of this story. I believe that we are all guided at times to help others in any way, but may not because of fear. Our ego can get in the way. I could have not gone over to her because I did feel a little embarrassed that I had been "eavesdropping". But what if this changes her life in some positive way and I had never told her about it? I may never know the outcome, but that is not my business anyway. Our responsibility to our self and others is to take action when being guided to do so. And then you let go.
Following our inner voice, our Higher Self, is essential to living from a place of joy, love, peace and abundance. And as you continue to listen and follow the guidance and live from your Higher Self, you will make a difference in others' lives as well.
Positive Quote of the Day: "We don't have to engage in grand, heroic actions to participate in the process of change. Small acts, when multiplied by millions of people,
can transform the world." ~ Howard Zinn (Historian) ~
This month in honor of the new year I have been clearing out my living space. Closets, drawers, filing cabinets, kitchen cabinets. Little by little I've been going through all the nooks and crannies of my home and getting rid of what I no longer need. It's a freeing experience. I just love the feeling of lightening my load. And when we get rid of the old, we make room for the new to enter our lives.
Clearing out the clutter also applies to our thoughts and feelings. It's important to get clear about the limiting beliefs that could be holding you back from living the life you've always imagined. Our conscious minds make up about 10% of what we think, the other 90% is in our subconscious minds. If you don't clear old beliefs or thoughts from your subconscious, you will continue to have the same patterns repeat themselves. In order to know what's in the dark closet of your subconscious, you must make time to open the door. If you are not living your ideal life, take some time to look within. Finding time each day to get quiet and feel whatever comes up for you is so important. This is how you find out what could be getting in your way. Once you get clear about the negative thoughts or beliefs you may be harboring from the past, you will be able to energetically clear them so they no longer guide you in your daily life.
When you first begin to do this, life may temporarily feel more chaotic and unorganized, just like when you begin to organize your home. Piles of stuff may be everywhere as you purge, but once you let go of what is no longer serving you and reorganize there is a sense of peace and calm in its place. The same occurs when you clear out old ways of thinking. But once you go through the process of clearing old thoughts and beliefs, your life starts to come together more easily. As you clear the clutter from your mind and body, you will notice that you will be able to hear the still, subtle voice of your heart. This will lead you to exactly what you need to do or where you need to go. You'll be more inspired and passionate about your life. Every time you clear old thoughts and beliefs, you make room for new positive ones to take their place. This is how you attract all the things you desire in life.
Pay attention to your reactions during the day. If you are worried, fearful or feel that things are never easy, go within to find the belief that you are operating from. Just being conscious of it you will notice a releasing of the old way of thinking. It's time for all of us to live more consciously and this is a good place to begin.
Albert Einstein "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.”